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stormkeeper_lovedorisCourtesy of two dear friends:
Leave a comment and I will:
1. Tell you why I friended you.
2. Associate you with something - fandom, a song, a color, a photo, a word etc.
3. Tell you something I like about you.
4. Tell you a memory I have of you.
5. Ask something I've always wanted to know about you.
6. Tell you my favorite user pic of yours.
7. In return, you must post this in your LJ. (unless you've already done so...)
Leave a comment and I will:
1. Tell you why I friended you.
2. Associate you with something - fandom, a song, a color, a photo, a word etc.
3. Tell you something I like about you.
4. Tell you a memory I have of you.
5. Ask something I've always wanted to know about you.
6. Tell you my favorite user pic of yours.
7. In return, you must post this in your LJ. (unless you've already done so...)
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Date: 2008-01-31 07:27 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-01-31 10:08 pm (UTC)I believe it started with our love of Jem. And then we headed over to Firefly together?
2. Associate you with something - fandom, a song, a color, a photo, a word etc.
Crackfic! (What I used to call question letters). You took them and made them the most hilarious thing. Love the one where Book suggests they have to walk a mile in each other's shoes...that's easily the funniest FF piece I've read ever!
3. Tell you something I like about you.
Your enthusiasm for your fandoms. You throw yourself into them so earnestly.
4. Tell you a memory I have of you.
I gotta answer with #2
5. Ask something I've always wanted to know about you.
Do you ever go back to an old fandom of yours, or once you're past it, are you past it forever?
6. Tell you my favorite user pic of yours.
I'm looking on your page and I can't find your icons!
7. In return, you must post this in your LJ. (unless you've already done so...)
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Date: 2008-02-03 07:29 pm (UTC)And then we headed over to Firefly together? - At round about the same time, yep. You were very disciplined about your viewing, whereas I splurged and watched the whole series in a day and a half.
Your enthusiasm for your fandoms. You throw yourself into them so earnestly. - What a lovely way of saying 'You are a mad fangirl' ;)
Do you ever go back to an old fandom of yours, or once you're past it, are you past it forever? - Hmmmm, now that's made me think. I'd like to say that I do go back to old fandoms. I think I usually have one or two things that I am really fannish about at any given time, but I have old fandoms that I still love lurking in the background.
I might go back through my journal at some point to see the trends in my writing. When I started my journal, I was writing almost exclusively 'Desperate Housewives'...which is a fandom I no longer have much interest in at all.
Oh, you've made me think now...
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Date: 2008-01-31 08:11 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-01-31 10:11 pm (UTC)So...decision made - I will make a better effort to read and respond to your posts!
I can say that my favorite icon of yours is Wash Zoe Behind You.
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Date: 2008-01-31 08:47 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-01-31 10:14 pm (UTC)Wash/Zoe! I was so psyched, seeing what a great writer you were and how we had this love for FF and Z/W in common.
2. Associate you with something - fandom, a song, a color, a photo, a word etc.
Torquetum
(Did I spell it right? I should know how, have only read it 10 times...)
3. Tell you something I like about you.
You're a very sharing person. Anytime I have computer questions, which is often, you're always there offering to assist.
4. Tell you a memory I have of you.
Can I borrow your answer? Because I have to kind of answer with "OMG HetCanonMarried!"
5. Ask something I've always wanted to know about you.
Are you glad you did it? The surgery I mean. Do you ever worry about the long term effects? (Hope that's not too personal)
6. Tell you my favorite user pic of yours.
I won't be redundent and answer with the "het canon married" one, so I'll say that I love the "effing fly" outtake!
7. In return, you must post this in your LJ. (unless you've already done so...)
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Date: 2008-01-31 11:05 pm (UTC)Am I glad that I did it? I think so. When I think about not having changed the way I have, it makes me sad. On the other hand, I still read a lot about the Fat Acceptance movement and agreeing with them and really believing in what they're saying makes me feel like a nasty hypocrite. So I'm trying to reconcile those two. It's one thing to agitate against fat hate when you're really, really fat. It's another thing to agitate against it when people who know me can think, "She wants people to stand up for fat, but she refuses to live that way?" Except I think that, to an extent, there's a difference between just plain fat and so fat it's beginning to compromise your life. Since I was at the point where it was beginning to compromise, I decided to do it and I don't regret it. Since I doubt I'll ever not be fat (according to rhetoric and the lousy fucking BMI scale), I think I can still play my acceptance card just fine without being a hypocrite. Whether other people think I'm one is not wholly up to me.
As for long term effects, yeah, I do worry. Every time I feel a pain or twinge I can't immediately associate (like I just took too big a drink or something) I wonder if it's something splitting or separating. Not to mention reduced life expectancy: did I trade up (common wisdom would have me believe I did, but I come from fat, long-lived people) or down? Christopher and I are talking more and more about having kids and I worry that I won't be able to create a healthy baby, or nurse it, and that I'll pass on too many of my genes and doom some innocent person to life as a subhuman because he or she is predisposed to fatness. I worry that my hair isn't going to grow back. I worry that I eat too many carbs. I worry that I'm going to hit some bottom point and then snap back like a rubber band and zoom up past my former high weight.
But I'm pretty good at ignoring feelings I don't want to have, so I ignore them. For instance, I could be worried that you'll be cheesed I just wrote a dissertation full of icky honesty in your comments. I'm ignoring that. :D
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Date: 2008-02-01 12:59 am (UTC)I don't know if this will seem like a good analogy to you or not, but I think I understand what you mean about worrying that you may seem like you're saying one thing but doing another. I've always felt (and said) that women should feel good about ourselves and the way we look and not feel pressured to conform to society's standards of beauty...and yet I had copious hair on my chin and neck and I went ahead and got it lasered off. Can I believe both view points? (Accept yourself as you are! But don't mind me as I endure pain and pay lotsa money so that people won't look at me as if I'm a freak!) But I do think, as you articulate above, that there is some grey area here, as there usually is with everything.
So just wanted to thank you again for sharing how you feel.
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Date: 2008-01-31 10:12 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-01-31 11:12 pm (UTC)I do remember that we met through Sarah! :)
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Date: 2008-01-31 10:18 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-01-31 11:17 pm (UTC)I believe our friending had to do with Zoe/Wash fanfics. Does that sound right?
2. Associate you with something - fandom, a song, a color, a photo, a word etc.
Vacation photos! I enjoyed your posts about your holidays, complete with pictures.
3. Tell you something I like about you.
I like your posts! Whether its RoevWade day or the topic is depilatory cream or Doris Lessing, I love reading what you have to say.
4. Tell you a memory I have of you.
Can I borrow from the above 2 questions? Because that is where many of my memories of you abound.
5. Ask something I've always wanted to know about you.
Would you ever move to the US if, say, the perfect job opened up there?
6. Tell you my favorite user pic of yours.
You've got a lot of good FF ones; I like the Diabolical Master of Disguise one a lot.
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Date: 2008-02-01 10:16 pm (UTC)2. Hurrah! I'm glad you liked my holiday posts! I had a lot of fun putting them together, it reminded me of the awesome times I had. I love to see the pictures of you and Doris, too.
3. Hee, I'm also most glad you like my nonficly posts. Esepcially the soapboxy ones, which I always feel quite shy about posting.
5. Yes, I'd definitely consider moving to the US if the circumstances were right. I probably wouldn't want to move there permanently - having lived abroad, I realise how much I love the UK, and I would also find it hard to stomach paying taxes longterm in a country without a national health service of any kind - but I'd definitely like to try living there for a bit. I have never even visited, though, so this is all very notional.
6. Hee, i like that one too. That was a good batch of icons!
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Date: 2008-01-31 11:07 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-01-31 11:22 pm (UTC)Fanfic! Our love for Z/W
2. Associate you with something - fandom, a song, a color, a photo, a word etc.
Your ability to make dresses
3. Tell you something I like about you.
I love that you always commented on my fanfic!
4. Tell you a memory I have of you.
Just discussing Firefly in general
5. Ask something I've always wanted to know about you.
Are you nervous about the wedding?
6. Tell you my favorite user pic of yours.
HMS Tessie Deadship!
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Date: 2008-02-01 02:09 am (UTC)If only they weren't the HMS Tessie Deadship though. :p
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Date: 2008-01-31 11:44 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-02-01 12:53 am (UTC)Firefly :)
2. Associate you with something - fandom, a song, a color, a photo, a word etc.
Motherhood
3. Tell you something I like about you.
I love the way you listen, the advice you offer. You're like a wise, caring older sister. I also like hearing your views on social/political stuff.
4. Tell you a memory I have of you.
I appreciate your comments on my fanfic!
5. Ask something I've always wanted to know about you.
Has having children enhanced your relationship or made it tougher?
6. Tell you my favorite user pic of yours.
You have good user pics! Good shading and coloring. "mmm-hmmm" is an amazingly good shot
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Date: 2008-02-01 01:30 am (UTC)I'm sorry - that isn't a helpful answer at all! But a proper reply would be something like "both" or "yes". It is such a sea-change that sometimes it seems that nothing is the same, but other times it is as though we were still flirty twenty year olds.
On the whole - enhanced, and certainly no regrets.
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Date: 2008-01-31 11:44 pm (UTC)(But yes, I do want to play.)
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Date: 2008-02-01 12:08 pm (UTC)Jem! The few, the proud, the Jemfans (Misfits fans)
2. Associate you with something - fandom, a song, a color, a photo, a word etc.
Jem's dancing in the videos in "Talent Search". Remember the post you did on this?? It cracked me up!
3. Tell you something I like about you.
Your writing!
4. Tell you a memory I have of you.
I vividly remember reading of the struggles you've had recently, the relationship ending. You're strong to be able to get through all that.
5. Ask something I've always wanted to know about you.
How do you manage to keep up your interest in Jem/Misfits when there's no new canon? Or do you?
6. Tell you my favorite user pic of yours.
I sure like the one you're using now!
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Date: 2008-02-04 05:02 am (UTC)I am still interested in Jem, the Holograms, and the Misfits. Sometimes it's just hard to write. I think that it's really the fans that keep me interested -- the fanart, fanfiction, and all the work that goes into the cons...speaking of which, any word on JemCon '08 yet? I'm taking the whole summer quarter off this year.
Also, there's a part of me that LOVES to analyze things, and picking apart the relationships on the show is very rewarding sometimes (I liked coming up with a past for Roxy and the Red Aces, and Pizzazz and her father are a GOLDMINE for angst).
~~Schiz
PS-- Icon by
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Date: 2008-02-05 02:16 am (UTC)And kudos to you for keeping up your interest. I'll always love the Misfits, no doubt of that. I do find it hard to keep my interest up though, when there's no new canon and hardly any new fanfic, and when discussions taper off, etc.
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Date: 2008-02-03 06:11 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-02-04 06:12 pm (UTC)Was it because of Firefly? Or X-men?
2. Associate you with something - fandom, a song, a color, a photo, a word etc.
bisexuality?
3. Tell you something I like about you.
I like your posts. They seem genuine, thoughtful - you seem like a really cool person
4. Tell you a memory I have of you.
Hmmmm....I do remember particularly your post where you talked about your looks. I guess every woman has appearance-anxieties and can totally relate.
5. Ask something I've always wanted to know about you.
Are you happy?
6. Tell you my favorite user pic of yours.
Pretty colors is cool
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Date: 2008-02-04 06:52 pm (UTC)3. Thank you, that was really nice of you. :)
4. Oh god...yes, I do have that insecurity. Have had it since I was a child, I've grown up being brainwashed that I was ugly as sin. And despite 6 boyfriends, I still feel that it's true...
5. NOt right now. I have had moments of happiness but I'm not happy with my life as it is now. I do have something to work towards though. :)
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Date: 2008-02-05 01:52 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-02-04 01:51 pm (UTC)Although, good luck with 6 and 7 seeming I have a livejournal account but no livejournal. :D Basically opened it to keep in touch with you :)
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Date: 2008-02-05 01:51 am (UTC)Because we knew each other before LJ and I'd hoped LJ would be a good tool for us to keep in touch better
2. Associate you with something - fandom, a song, a color, a photo, a word etc.
X-men fic!
3. Tell you something I like about you.
I love that you are so high-achieving, so driven. You work your butt off. You're one smart chick.
4. Tell you a memory I have of you.
Everything related to X-men fanfic. Your fic, the descriptive wording and beautiful writing. The ideas you gave me for my fic. The way you rescued me when I couldn't figure out what to do with that Dagron subplot. The way you made the whole trilogy 10 times better.
5. Ask something I've always wanted to know about you.
Not to steal a question I asked someone else, but - are you happy?
6. Tell you my favorite user pic of yours.
You summed it up above :)
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Date: 2008-02-05 01:11 pm (UTC)lol. :) I miss x-men fic :) Don't feel like writing some purely gratuitous R&R smut do you??? No? Lol, thought I'd try my luck anyway. :D
*blushes* Thank-you. :) I'm actually trying to be a lot less of a work-o-holic. Making a conserted effort to be more balanced. Still work hard, but not to the killing myself point. Its just not worth it.
Wow. That is a tough one to answer. Closest I've been in a long time. :) I'm happy with the way I'm trying to live my life but not yet contented. I'm still missing a few thing. I don't know if I'll ever be contented. As you said, I'm very ambitious. I always like striving to be better, do more. If I'm not growing, if I'm not changing, if I'm not learning, betting better, improving - I feel stiffled, claustraphbic, chained almost. And I don't really want to change that about myself. Temper it maybe, but i'm sure that will come with age.
But I have reallised I'm very blessed - I have a good job, a decent income, a nice home, a great (although... annoying and overbearing...) family, select few but fantastic and true friends. I have my health - for the most part :) ok, I'm completely genetically disfunctional, and I should never breed for the strength of the species :D Lol, but all teasing aside, now that I know whats wrong with me and am managing it, I'm really healthy. If I look at what it like for the majority of people in my country, I really shouldn't complain. I just need to work on feeling blessed all the time, and not just when something reminds me that I'm better off than most.
I suppose where I am right now is... I'm not happy yet (nor am I unhappy), but I'm actively trying to change that. I felt I had fallen into a rut, every week the same as the last, so I decided to take up some more hobbies. I felt I was withdrawing from society - hermitting (as I tend to do, cause I am a hermit at heart :D), so I made sure that some of those hobbies included being able to meet more people. I'm trying things I've always wanted to do but been afraid to.
But this doesn't mean I don't have my bad days. But without the side affects of the toxins in my system, its easier to pull out of them. Its now just a bad day. Before, when I was really sick, it was the end of the worl.The only thing that was reeally keeping me going was my sheer stubborn force of personality. My body had started to shut down physically, and had been slowly doing that for years. So when my mood was down, everything crashed down on me. Thats kinda why I thought I was going crazy, that I was bi-polar, or a depressant or something - because when I had a bad day it was literally like moving a mountain to get back to a normal frame of mood. Its so hard to actally discribe. And I can't believe I though feeling that horrible was normal. (Still sometimes want to sue my doctors for malpractice!). Sometimes I think I should start a blogg to tell people about this, because I hate to think of other people being in the same place I was. But on the other hand - I'm terrible with correspondance :D and who would want to listen to me ranting about evil doctors who take away good food and make me exercise for 8hrs a week. :D
Did I actually have an answer buried in all that? :)
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Date: 2008-02-06 04:22 pm (UTC)Thanks for your answer to the question. I had wondered and it's good to hear your "state of the union" as of right now. It sounds like you're going in the right direction.